Who’s the top dog of them all?
The female empowerment movement is something that is very close to my heart. I think it’s ridiculous that women are being denied an opportunity to make their own decisions, getting paid less than men or aren’t accepted as leaders. I don’t understand how people can be judged by their skin color, nationality or religion either. Worse of all, how they can be judged by their sex. For me, this is no brainer. We are all the same – we have the same brain, internal organs, body composition, so what is the actual big deal? You can only be judged by your actions, but by what you look like or where you from? Bitch, please.
I do accept the fact that many years ago women were staying at home, looking after their children and husbands, and their only responsibility was to cook and clean. However, we live in different times now in a very progressive world and women do work. Let’s not forget, it’s 2020, not 1840. As a matter of fact, women are often the main providers for the family, while either being a single mum, or their men prefer to sit on the couch all day watching football and do the fuck all.
Let’s take an example of that. I am a huge football fan, but it bothers me a lot that male football players earn on average £2,5 million a year, while females only £26k in annual salary. Ok, it can be argued that we have over 137,000 professional male footballers in the world, and only £1,300 females, therefore sponsorships aren’t big for females, as they are not as popular, etc. and blah blah blah. HOWEVER, why not promote female football? Whoever I speak to about females playing football, I get a response: ‘Women are shit in it, so why watch it?’ It makes my blood boil. Women aren’t shit. In fact, they are better in technics, some of them are more skilled than men and are smarter on the pitch. They can be slower or more gentle, but to patronize women in such a way is disgusting. And I think, you really need to have small balls to be saying those things about women.
Sometimes when I go into my LinkedIn account I get notifications of big business news announcements, like ‘First female CEO is taking over XXX’. Or ‘XX has won the case over gender pay’, ‘XX is taking XXX to court for unfair dismissal & gender harassment’. Why on earth there is still an issue over gender? Why does it matter if you report to a man or a woman? Are you really that pathetic and close-minded in your own thinking that you cannot swallow your pride to acknowledge that women can be exceptionally good as leaders? And if you do, will that make you a smaller person? Of course not.
I have to be honest though, there are times when women are a bit weaker and I am totally fine with it, for example, if there is something heavy to lift, I am not going to hurt myself lifting it myself, while my partner looks on, just to prove the point that women & men are equal. Or you wouldn’t watch a boxing match man vs woman. But at the same time, you need to have a balance in all of this. I think, that if there is a conversation going on, and a female has a bigger knowledge of the matter, why not to applaud her and say: ‘Wow, this is amazing, I definitely can learn from you’. Everyone loves to be appreciated and respected and isn’t it nice when you can just be kind to one another, regardless if you are a man or a woman? Wouldn’t you like it if someone said that to you? That you are amazing and you are good at something?
I do think though, that the problem lies in with our human nature. We love to compare ourselves to others. We tend to look at everyone and think: I wish I had this too, I wish I have done this too, I wish… No. We need to stop doing this to ourselves, it’s not healthy and it damages our self-confidence. Without confidence, we aren’t able to enjoy the success of others. And it’s important that we do. Female empowerment for me is not only about equal rights, but also about women supporting women. I do get jealous and I tend to compare myself to other females, but at the end of the day, I sleep better if I don’t. Because technically being jealous doesn’t make me a better person or help me in any way with my life. Quite opposite, when we compare ourselves to others, we lose motivation, our ambition and we become bitter about everything. We create rate races for no reason. They don’t give us anything, neither they teach us any lessons, those races. What we have to be careful about though is the amount of attention we give to negative, jealous thoughts. I can guarantee you, that supporting each other will make you feel millions of times better than wishing others not well.
Mirror mirror on the wall, who’s the top dog of them all? Does it really matter? Be the best version of yourself to live a fulfilled, confident and happy life. Don’t worry about what you know and what you don’t. It doesn’t matter if you are female or male, black or white, straight or gay, Christian or Muslim, overweight or slim. What matters is how much you love yourself and how confident you are about your own strengths. How you see yourself is how people will remember you, and that’s what is important in life.
Mila
